You are not invited

I have two younger sister that seemed to be in the "know it all" category in life. They have, I judge, to be in the know with the "right" crowd of people around them. They fancied themselves around people who have more than them, i.e, beautiful house, luxury cars, well to do, kids in private school, got it?

Sister #1 - I'll call her Freckles. Lives with boyfriend, her son is from her other live in boyfriend whom she left because he abused her. Her second son is from this Argentinian man she met online, this Argentinian man flew all the way here to the States to meet her, slept with her (obviously), she got pregnant, he went back to South America, then after two years, Freckles decides to send her undesired child to Mexico never to be seen again (my sister is not from Mexico!) Her excuse, I can't support two kids, but one. Now her current live in boyfriend has her in a nice house, she doesn't have to work, bought her a new car and she still can't support two kids. How's that for mother of the year.

Sister #2 - I'll call her Clueless. Is currently separating from her husband of 14 years because, he doesn't like sports, doesn't know how to fix things around the house, she's the one with the pants on, and he doesn't like to drink and party as much as she does. She likes to hang out with people with "money." She behaves like she's 18.

Neither of them know how to set healthy boundaries and do not know how to follow through. They don't like me because they feel I'm too different than they are, I'm not cool enough like they are. Clueless has weight issues, and Freckles is codependent. Me? I'm realist who calls it like it is and they hate it! I can be rude about it at times and it happens when I have been overly patient with them therefore, I explode.

What is the bad thing about this situation. I love them. But I can't be used by them anymore. They have noticed that I have changed towards them. There comes a point in life when you say, "ENOUGH IS ENOUGH."

It has been a year since, I have stopped them from manipulating me and they have stopped inviting me to family gatherings. It is OK. I'm spared from the drama, the heartache they have caused me all these years and most importantly, my time and gas!

Sincerely,

Stressed.